A good blog has a theme. It’s conversational yet it has momentum, it takes you on a short journey. When I write I feel like i’m taking myself on a little journey through my own thoughts, and if I write it down correctly I’m able to take other people with me on that journey.
Sometime’s I’ve been able to do a better job at it, and other time’s it’s more comedic than insightful.
The goal has always been unclear though. Why do I have the desire to write down thoughts, stories, and feelings?
There’s a big fat word for you.
Here’s something you probably know about yourself: You want to know you’re doing a good job. Not only that, you want to feel like you’re a good person.
Now don’t get this confused. Most people want validation, whether that comes from themselves or others. People don’t want condescension. Patronizing someone because you don’t actually think they’re doing a good job doesn’t help anything or anyone.
The point of validation is to encourage things that are good. If it isn’t good, it should either be discouraged, or taught how to better succeed.
So is that why I write? I write a blog in order to feel more validated as a self-proclaimed writer who hardly ever writes?
Often I hear the word EGO associated with selfish and heedless people who only care about themselves.
I think a big ego is immensely important in order to be a more successful, and better person. An attitude of success and happiness stems from your own self worth; If you think you’re awesome you have a better chance of becoming awesome.
Ego doesn’t mean to underestimate your own faults, or to become a selfish ignorant jerk. It means that you have a good understanding of your own self worth, and you believe in yourself.
Praise, validation, and encouragement are all tools in order to inspire confidence and grow EGO. The bigger your ego, the less you need outward encouragement in order to feel good or successful.
Now, this is where the negative aspect comes in. If you have a massive ego and no frame of reference you can be considered an “ego-maniac”. Someone who thinks they’re amazing who probably isn’t very amazing at all. So how can you have a large ego without being an ego-maniac? How can you be humble and confident and all of those other good qualities people like?
Validation and ego are incredibly tricky things. You could have people in your life validating bad habits or ideas that you have because you’ve surrounded yourself in an echo chamber of stupid. You may not listen to people giving you constructive advice because your ego won’t let you be the person who’s wrong.
Life’s a balancing act. Ego is good. Everyone needs validation.
Disagree? Oh you’re a self sustained person who doesn’t need validation from anyone? And you’re doing great in life?
You probably have a massive ego.