Here I am sitting in a Starbucks on a gloomy Friday afternoon. I was thinking about what other people do in order to make friends in a new place. Since I’m going to be going on a journey to meet new people, let me tell you what I think is the best way to make new friends!
MAKING FRIENDS THE MOMBLOG WAY:
As you may know, I just moved to Tulsa from California. I would describe Cali as temperate, blonde, and overrated. I would describe Tulsa as moody, flat, and friendly. One of the first things that I noticed when I first moved here was how friendly everyone was. Your Starbucks Barista actually wants to know how your day is going, people sitting next to you just strike up casual conversation, and there’s just a general atmosphere of friendliness all around.
Coming from someone who was raised in California, where if you take too long to order your burger at a fast food joint you might get disemboweled by a hungry customer, friendliness is refreshing.
Want to make a new friend? Be a friend. When you make a new acquaintance treat them like they are already your friend. Go to the lengths you would go through for a friend. True friendliness is not something that people see every day.
The times in my life where I made the strongest connections with people were times where I just went for it. I didn’t try to make them like me, I didn’t try to act cool, I just wanted to be a friend to them.
Crazy thing is if you are genuine about becoming someone’s friend, they’ll want to be your friend too.
It’s amazing how much people are willing to share with you about their lives if you are genuinely interested in what they have to say. Sure, maybe their passion is collecting Bionicles and you’re not super interested in it. Who cares? You don’t have to collect Bionicles, but if it’s important to the person that you’re trying to befriend, then make it important to yourself!
People grow bonds through having common interests; So find out what they’re interested in, and be interested in it! Maybe it’s something you’ve never heard of, or haven’t put much thought into before. You’d be amazed at what you’ll find out about yourself when you listen to another person talk about their passions! Maybe you’ll actually love Bionicle collecting after all, who knows?
MAKE THE FIRST MOVE
I know that people want to be wanted. People want to be woo’d. You want to feel like your friendship is sought after. That’s dumb. Do you want someone to be your friend? Go be their friend! People are busy, while it may not feel the best to always be the reach-er in a relationship, just give it a try. You may end up with way more friends than you bargained for.
Smile. Talk about stuff that they like. Be interested in what they have to say! Get off your phone and give them all the attention you’ve got. Be a friend if you want a friend. And if after all of that you don’t end up making friends with that person, that’s okay! You’ll always be able to make friends;
BECAUSE YOU’RE AWESOME
Actually, I don’t know that but I’m giving you the benefit of the doubt.
You may be a terrible person.
But hey! There’s friends out there for you too!